Last weekend I went to a wedding with SBF. It was one of his good friends from engineering who was getting married. It was an interracial non-religious wedding held downtown, and also the first time i've ever gone as a 'queer couple'.

I wasn't sure how it would all pan out, but over all i'd say that everything went well. I got to meet lots more of my SBF's engineering friends, as well as get into their kind of geek humour :). The bride and bride's maids were absolutely georgous. They were wearing stunning blue asian dresses, while the bride had a poppy red asian dress of the similar cut and design. I couldn't get over how incredible they looked, and it was clear that these women could wear this dress outside of the wedding! A bonus for sure.

One interesting change to this wedding was their means to get the newlyweds to kiss. Rather than the average (and annoying) clinging of the glasses, family and friends had to write a Haiku that had to do with the newly weds. Some of the entries were quite hilarious, and I was especially impressed how each person prefaced each Haiku with a quick few word to give it context - this was especially helpful to keep us all in the loop from inside jokes.

The menu of the wedding was, shall i say, not exactly me-centric :). Please note that I am lactose intolerant and am allergic to melons:

Cream of Asparagus
Lettuce with Cantelope and Honey Dew Melon
Ballotine of Chicken w/ Mustard Cream Sauce
Irish Cream Cheesecake

After struggle through the first dish (just fishing out the pieces of asparagus), I was told that there was an alternate menu for me, since I wrote on the RSVP card about my food restrictions. Funny, since the impatient server was not very happy with my request -- at first he pushed back at me and told me there was no such thing as alternate dishes. After making me feel like a high maintenance angry vegan lesbian, he finally went back to check... And voila, out came my alternate foods. It wasn't much different - they literally just removed the cream sauces from all the dishes! And the alternative for the cheesecake? Cantelope, Honeydew and Pineapples! heheh. It figures with my luck!

Nonetheless the food was good and most of all the atmosphere was merry. Smiles were all around and the union between a asian woman and white male couldn't have been more accepting. The only downer was that SBF and I were not allowed to slow dance or show any PDA together. It was a request that was given beforehand by the bride b/c she had intolerant asian relatives there and they didn't want us to cause any issues. It started was just after being invited by the DJ to dance at the end of the bride/groom's initial dances. All the couples convened on the floor while we had to sit out on the sidelines. Yes, I felt hurt, but what can i say, I guess it wasn't our place. And I keep forgetting about being in a queer relationship until moments like this.

What made it worse was how a few friends asked SBF why we just sat there.. After being told why, they understood. Apart of me then missed my own friends from being at the wedding, like my buddy "Lovely Lady"...Lovely Lady PART II would come out, see me looking a bit sad, suddenly explode with raging fury, bitchout like no tomorrow, then after the emotions flare down give each other a big hug (it can be validating and humourous at the same time). Ah well. Meh. Bah. I didn't want to make scene. And all of us have endured much worse, that's for sure!

Other than that, i had a good time. I was getting tired of the "het-fest", so later that night we decided to hit church street to feel an ounce of normalicy again. It did the trick - we ran into exboyfriends we didn't want to see, biker lesbians and old men giving us creepy stares... And I couldn't have been happier :)

Take care,

RE

"eat drink and be merry"